11 Jun What defines you as a person? An exercise to find out.

Our beliefs are like unquestioned commands, telling us how things are, what’s possible and what’s impossible, what we can and can not do. They shape every action, every thought and every feeling what we experience.

As a result, the first thing for change is to identify our core beliefs.

Your core beliefs defines you as a person, shape the way you see the world and interact with people.

See below example of core beliefs having different outcome of a same situation.

The A-B-C Sequence

The A-B-C sequence is a model for interpreting human behaviour. It is based on the vary famous Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

A stands for an activating event
B is the person’s beliefs about the event
C is the consequences.

Let’s look at the scenario presented earlier: Your friend has called to say he cannot attend your dinner party. In this situation the A-B-C model may look like this:

A (activating event) is – your friend not coming to dinner.
B (belief) is – my friend doesn’t like me or I’m worthless.
C (consequence) is – you cancel the evening.

Think about some of your own core beliefs which is hindering or helping you living a fulfilling life.

Put yourself through this exercise few times. See what shows up.

The beliefs you hold defines you.