09 Apr What are values? What are your values?
After my last week’s post A simple formula to create the life you desire. I got asked few times, What are values? and How do I find my own values?
To put it simply, values are everything. Values are like the chosen direction of your life. Below is the extract on Values from my Stop Struggling, Start Thriving workshop worksheet.
What are values?
- ‘Desired qualities of ongoing action’
- Heart’s deepest desires for how you want to behave
- How you want to treat anyone or anything
- What kind of person do you want to be?
- Can usually be said in one or two words
What are your values?
Below are some common values. (They are not ‘the right ones’; merely common ones.)
Please read through the list and write a letter next to each value, based on how important it is to you: V = very important, Q = quite important, and N = not important.
Acceptance/self-acceptance: to be accepting of myself, others, life, etc.
Adventure: to be adventurous; to actively explore novel or stimulating experiences
Assertiveness: to respectfully stand up for my rights and request what I want
Authenticity: to be authentic, genuine, and real; to be true to myself
Caring/self-care: to be caring toward myself, others, the environment, etc.
Compassion/self-compassion: to act kindly toward myself and others in pain
Connection: to engage fully in whatever I’m doing and be fully present with others
Contribution and generosity: to contribute, give, help, assist, or share
Cooperation: to be cooperative and collaborative with others
Courage: to be courageous or brave; to persist in the face of fear, threat, or difficulty
Creativity: to be creative or innovative
Curiosity: to be curious, open-minded, and interested; to explore and discover
Encouragement: to encourage and reward behavior that I value in myself or others
Excitement: to seek, create, and engage in activities that are exciting or stimulating
Fairness and justice: to be fair and just to myself or others
Fitness: to maintain or improve or look after my physical and mental health
Flexibility: to adjust and adapt readily to changing circumstances
Freedom and independence: to choose how I live and help others do likewise
Friendliness: to be friendly, companionable, or agreeable toward others
Forgiveness/self-forgiveness: to be forgiving toward myself or others
Fun and humor: to be fun loving; to seek, create, and engage in fun-filled activities
Gratitude: to be grateful for and appreciative of myself, others, and life
Honesty: to be honest, truthful, and sincere with myself and others
Industry: to be industrious, hardworking, and dedicated
Intimacy: to open up, reveal, and share myself, emotionally or physically
Kindness: to be kind, considerate, nurturing, or caring toward myself or others
Love: to act lovingly or affectionately toward myself or others
Mindfulness: to be open to, engaged in and curious about the present moment
Order: to be orderly and organized
Persistence and commitment: to continue resolutely, despite problems or difficulties.
Respect/self-respect: to treat myself and others with care and consideration
Responsibility: to be responsible and accountable for my actions
Safety and protection: to secure, protect, or ensure my own safety or that of others
Sensuality and pleasure: to create or enjoy pleasurable and sensual experiences
Sexuality: to explore or express my sexuality
Skilfulness: to continually practice and improve my skills and apply myself fully
Supportiveness: to be supportive, helpful and available to myself or others
Trust: to be trustworthy; to be loyal, faithful, sincere, and reliable
May be I’ll keep providing resources about Values for next couple of weeks. What you say? Please respond in comments.
Would you add any personal experiences, where you realised value of time?